For instance, I'm impatient and a control freak and my husband is lazy and lacking in the communication department. These things don't make us bad people, they just make us people who are human in nature. We could just ignore these parts of ourselves and hope for the best, but instead we tend to them like weeds in a garden; if we don't rip them up when we see them growing, they take root and before we know it they've crowded out all our pretty blooms with their wilted ugliness.
I won't be pointing out any of Felicity's flaws, but let's say when she's 13 she has a fight with her best friend because she won't go watch her sporting event because it isn't fun for her. First, I'm going to make sure she knows I'm always on her side, even when she's wrong, and then I'm going to tell her she should have gone to said sporting event. If I told her it was okay and it would all work out I'm giving her a sense of a false reality because it isn't okay to be disinterested in the things that are important to the people you love and life doesn't just work itself out. Relationships of every nature are hard work and take commitment, so if this is something I have to teach her you can bet I'm going to, because I don't want her to be that friend that puts themselves before everyone else or a wife who thinks her interests are more important than her husbands.
In the end it will all be up to her, but I'm going to do everything I can to ensure she ends up an honorable and successful adult in her own right so when it's all said and done I can say I did my part.
"Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it." Proverbs 22:6 NLT